Falling in love & six tips
We don’t call it ‘falling in love’ for no reason. You fall. There you go. All your thoughts and feelings regard this one person, you think the world of them and you would be willing to change your life fort hem. You are filled with hope, of course, but there’s fear too. And there’s doubt: do your feelings mean that there are great things lying ahead of you, are you catching a glimpse of a glorious truth or is it a trap, self deceit?
I seriously know what I’m talking about. Fell in love deeply with my husband, got divorced 25 years later and have been through the falling in love process again…. with my new partner. I wish I had had these tips……. don’t just give up your life for a man, stay independent, and make sure you have a career too. Don’t let the fear of being alone determine your choice of partner.
A client of mine experienced this recently that she thought she had met the love of her life but in the end he didn’t choose her. She was devastated and hit rock bottom. Then several months later out of the blue and totally unexpected she literally bumped into another man. She wasn’t looking for new love because she believed it didn’t exist for her after the last one, soon to realise this man was much much better for her. Kinder, more gentle, respectful, compassinate and very much into her.
The lesson being that even when you think no one will ever be able to replace a last lost love …. the secret is, there will be … there will be that very special person out there who is looking for you.
The person looking for you has also sent a message into the universe for you to cross their path. It’s about the right time and the right moment happening often when you least expect it.
Falling in love can happen in split seconds, or might take several weeks but on the whole it happens quickly and a total chemical reaction that takes place in your brain. Often coaches and psychologists don’t want to coach people who are in love because they can’t be told anything because they see the world through rose tinted spectacles. So when you first fall head over heals in love here are some tips to guide you a little so you feel safe and protected. My biggest tip is however to always listen to your intuition… she knows best always. Whenever I didn’t listen to her I became ill and totally drained from my energy. Follow your gut instinct.
These six tips help you to feel safe when you’re in love
1. Let your heart set the pace. Don’t say or do anything that makes things go any faster than you feel comfortable with.
2. Try to e-mail and text less, and see your love face to face more often. This is a good way to keep your connection pure, and to prevent yourself from creating an ideal picture.
3. Get to know them, talk to their friends, see how they were before you met them.
4. Think of your relationship as something that might last and talk about it this way.
5. Try to really get to know them. Don’t focus on ‘do they like me’, but ask yourself regularly: ‘do I like them?’
6. Listen to the whispers of your intuition … your instinct, your deep first gut feeling. Essential to chosing the right partner. Be awake to that. She will guide you and tell you the truth. Listen!!!
I hope this serves you….
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